不同于西方“断连”研究着眼于基于技术的、作为个体的人与媒介之间的“连接”或“断开”，本文基于中国经验的“疏联”研究，是将社交媒体中个体的断连实践放置于中国的关系情境中，关注受个体文化影响的当代青年在“关系-个体化”情境，与自家人、熟人关系间的重新联结以及由此产生的差序格局的变化。首先，在横向的自家人关系中，对父母顺从的“应有之情”不再被强调，呈现出“亲而不尊”的情感表达与“孝而不顺”的格局建构特征。在纵向型熟人关系中，中国人人情-面子法则依然是主要的交往动力。遵循上下等级的“序”的格局并没有根本改变，呈现出“尊而不亲”的情感表达和关系建构特征。在平行型熟人关系中，工具、情感维度的交织共同决定了关系走向。在数字媒介的中介化作用下，与潜在关系缔结的“网缘”成为新的网络熟人关系。一方面，工具性考量使得这类关系趋于疏联，另一方面，“真有之情”成为这类关系的趋近动力。总之，“疏联”是当代青年在“关系-个体化”情境中的一种个体化（自我文化）与关系文化的耦合关系策略，它不仅契合了中国人的关系格局和个体化进程之间的张力实践，同时也具备与西方“断连”概念对话的本土理论潜力。

In contrast to western research on “digital disconnection”, which focuses on the digital “connection” or “disconnection” from the perspective of technology-based individual use, this paper explores the concept of “alienated connections”. It situates the disconnection practices within social media when the Chinese cultural context of guanxi, and focusing on the reconnection between contemporary youth who influenced by individual culture and their family and acquaintances in the context of guanxi-individualization, as well as the change of differential mode of association. In the horizontal, parallel relationships with family members and zijiaren (one of us), the traditional emphasis on deferring to parents (“obliged affection”) is no longer prominent. This has been replaced by “natural affection” expressed through intimacy without respect and the construction of pattern of “filial piety but disobedience”. Conversely, within the vertical hierarchical structure, the rule of renqing and mianzi continue to serve as strong forces in interaction. The inherent “order” structure of superiors and subordinates remains intact, manifesting itself as expressions of “obliged affection” characterized by respect without intimacy. In parallel acquaintance relationships, the intertwining of instrumental and emotional dimensions jointly determines the direction of the relationship. Under the mediation effect of digital media, the “internet-based relationship” established with potential relationships has become a new form of online acquaintance relationship. On the one hand, instrumental considerations cause such relationships tend to become distant. On the other hand, “natural affection” has become dynamics of such relationships to be close. In short, “alienated connections” is a coupling relationship strategy between individualization (self-culture) and guanxi culture for contemporary youth in the context of guanxi-individualization. “Alienated connections” not only aligns with Chinese practice between the guanxi structure and the process of individualization, but also has the theoretical potential for further dialogue with the western concept of “disconnection”.